Dating attitudes and behaviors of american and chinese college students

an attractive alternative for parents that are anxious and eager to help their single children find a suitable match for marriage.

This paper discusses the possible cultural and financial reasons behind the increasing popularity of According to Zhou (2009), meeting or dating between two individuals of the opposite sex under the recommendation of a third party such as parents, neighbors, co-workers, relatives, or even matchmakers is traditionally known as Xiang Qin 相亲.

Parents are known to be more resourceful and experienced and are seen as individuals with better capabilities of evaluating the quality of marriage (Huang, Jin, & Xu, 2012).

is simply another form of matchmaking in a controlled setting, driven primarily by the dwindling resources available to them (Sun, 2012b).

From the tiny bar I gathered up my pride and headed out in search of “my own kind” – and hoped that I’d know them when I saw them.

I couldn’t ignore the irony, of course – the very notion that hundreds of years later, there’d be the issue of us getting along. Inevitably mentioned are issues of culture and the idea that any problems among us are, ultimately, the residual affect of slavery in America. ” I explained that I’d never been here before and I thought it adventurous to try something new. His words came sincerely – out of curiosity more than anything else and, I suppose, concern. Maybe, I replied, I ventured in here hoping, perhaps, to discover some measure of kinship. ” I know – it all could have made for some compelling banter. As a Black man born and raised in America, I’ve dealt with prejudice, racism and mistrust in many configurations.And so, with very little chance of my self-examination being interrupted, I sat there and gave it all serious, honest consideration – and confirmed that I truly did have honorable intentions.I figured I’d come in here, have a drink, dig the atmosphere and thus add it to my list of places to go.My Own Kind By Steven Ivory For several years, I’d passed the restaurant while driving through that side of town.It looked like an interesting spot; I said I’d stick my head in there one day.