"It might be the heart medication he's taking that causes the problem, because he's a very virile man.
So we just have sex in a different way -- I don't mind at all -- and we're also very affectionate.
"There's strong data all over: It's a matter of survival," says Dr. "This attitude creates a block to many seniors who want to be sexually active," he says.
The topic may well lose some of its taboo status, however, as the baby boom generation enters its later years.
One advantage of growing older is that personal relationships can take on increased importance as children and careers take a backseat.
Seniors can devote more time and energy to improving their love lives.
The silence, say experts, allows misconceptions to flourish -- including the widespread assumption that seniors lose interest in sex and are, or should be, asexual.
"If you stay interested, stay healthy, stay off medications, and have a good mate, then you can have good sex all the way to the end of life," he says. The more intimate the connection, the more powerful the effects." But older people may encounter an obstacle they hadn't expected: their adult children, who may be less than pleased to see their aging parents as sexual beings.After the children left home and her husband retired, the couple had more freedom to express their sexuality.She says that she and her husband had sex three to four times a week when the children lived at home; once they were alone they made love almost every day.If you've had a good loving man and a good sexual life, you'll miss it terribly if you stop.I've had everything from a cancer operation to shingles, and I'm still sexually active." Sex is different but not diminished Wellborn's openness about sex -- and the frequency with which she has enjoyed it -- may be somewhat unusual, but her perspective is not.